Saturday, December 29, 2012

read as i say, not as i read

So it turns out that reading a set of books that your spouse read and loved and begged you to read for months will open a whole new area of conversation amongst you.

Whether you view that as opening Pandora's box, or just a can of worms, well, that's on you to decide.

Opening such a can has in fact happened twice in the course of our short marriage and, as I have a decidedly positive outlook on life (give or take a few overreactions, quickly overlooked and forgotten, of course), I take it as opening another small window into Topher's brain, that I do.

You see a few years ago, I managed to cajole Topher into opening the tales of a sir Henry James Potter, as written by one JK Rowling, and I can only imagine that finally meeting my ink and paper twin (Hermione, that is) was unto meeting the inner depths of my soul, as it were.

And when Topher opened that first page of the Sorceror's Stone, well, it should be noted that the heavens parted and the light of wisdom and understanding of myriads of references now understood shown down upon us and our union was granted an additional five years of unending happiness and blessings.

And yet, knowing all these extra blessings wrought unto us from Christopher's reading of seven of my deliciously favorite books, knowing the seemingly endless months I had ahead of me living in a foreign land where the best distraction of constant, erm, glowing, is distraction of any kind, but reading is best, and YET, I still resisted. Re-read Harry Potter, I did, in fact, before I did indeed relent and I opened them.

The saga of the Song of Ice and Fire, otherwise heralded as the Game of Thrones.  

I am currently in the midst of the third book, and they pass in quite a whirlwind, as there are four or five all mashed together like one book in my Kindle version, and so I never really know when I'm about to end one and traverse into another until I reach dozens of pages of family trees, which are an attempt, unsuccessful at best for my understanding, to break down the lines of the dozens of families within in each novel.

And yet, I like them.  They are entertaining and have good characters, and I especially love that the battle scenes are almost always explained after they have happened, secondhand, from one character to another, which has got the best thing ever!  Reading battle scenes is the worst, way worse even than having to read Quidditch scenes in my beloveds.
However, I'd have to say some of the best times I've had reading this year are the books I pulled off the shelf I'd just dusted for spiderwebs while working in the library here at site.  I read so many rad children's books this way!  It was like I had a chance to do third grade all over, which, for those who know me, is saying a lot!

I mean, I had no idea that Roald Dahl was so freaking creative.  His books are works of art!  Whole new words and ideas and hilarity, from these books!  AND I even discovered that a movie that I used to DREAD seeing on the Disney channel when I was young because it TERRIFIED me is actually The Witches by Dahl!  And I needn't have been so afraid, although, who really wants to stay a mouse forever?  But Anjelica Houston, and those wigs and nails all the witches had! Nightmares for days if I even caught one second of the ballroom meeting scene.

And my friends, there were so many more lovely children's books I devoured those afternoons, perched on a teak wood chair, in my jersey cotton maxi skirts, a button down shirt, (untucked because I can when I work at the library!), beams of sunlight slowly making their way across the dusty floor as the sun lowered ever so slowly into dusk, peals of laughter reaching me from the secondary school just a mere fifty yards away.  

Charlie and his chocolate factory, Charlotte and her web, Laura and her prairie, Pippi and her horse; they will always spring to mind when I feel a layer of dust on my fingers and I hear the slow strum of an overhead fan.   

Those books, they belong to this full year I spent living in Cambodia, and they belong to the Kate who lived in that year, who strived ever so much to live in the moment and not strain for the next.  And these books, they helped her stay present and happy and joyful and young and patient and peaceful.

Friday, December 28, 2012

and I think he will make cute babies, too, so there's that

It may be a bit of a skewed depiction, as it's a conversation that happened just a few days ago, but it's a memorable conversation nonetheless, and one that I did, in fact,  have this year.

It is memorable it's non-memorableness, as it is the same exact conversation I seem to have every single week, often times with the same people, like the little savory cake seller at the market who loves my nose, or the teachers at my school that love to ask me, every day, if I'm going home to cook lunch, even though they know I'm not.

But this conversation ended on a note that seems to sum up all that I feel and speaks to why I love to have it, even when it's exhausting and repetitive and seemingly unending.

So there's that.

And here's the conversation.

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The setting: 
Our tiled porch/entryway, midday.  In my hand, an electrified battery-powered mosquito racket in hand.  In my host mother's, a broom made of long grass, wrapped in colorful plastic along the handle.

The mission: 
To kill as many disease killing, blood sucking little biotches as we can so they don't escape into our house and bite me.  Which they will, if allowed. Never Chris. Always me.

Host Mother: Oh, you are killing mosquitoes? Here, let me help you.  I will shake the plants and you can kill them.

Me: Thank you!

*sounds of hundreds of mosquitoes being electrocuted*

Host Mother: Where is Chris?

Me: He is inside.  We are having several friends over to eat dinner to celebrate Christmas.  He is preparing the food.

Host Mother: Oh, ha ha, he is such a good husband.  He knows how to cook!

Me: Oh, I know!  I am very lucky to have a husband like him.

Host Mother: Very lucky!  In Cambodia, men do not know how to cook and the wife has to do everything. It is not very happy and it is very exhausting for the women.

Me: Oh, yes, I have seen that.

Host Mother: I think I like how in America men and women both know how to cook and share the duties of the home.

Me: Oh yes, me too!  I think it is easier that way for the family to be happy and healthy.

Host Mother: Oh, ha ha, yes.

Me: I am very lucky though. Not all American men like to or know how to cook.  But when I met Chris nine years ago, I thought to myself: He is handsome! He is funny! He has a good heart! He knows how to cook!  And I think he will make cute babies! So I should marry him!

Host Mother: Oh, ha ha, that is funny!  And so true! Ha ha.  Ok, we have killed the mosquitoes.  I will sweep them now.

Me: Ha ha.  Thank you.  I will go help Chris cook now.

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And, it should be noted, for the record, that I actually really did help Chris cook.  I made the potatoes, and the carrots, and boiled the beans for him to finish.  And it was delicious, it was!

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Wednesday, December 26, 2012

{give} and that was christmas

What a Christmas it was, too!  From a Christmas party with our community English class where we gave away lots of fun items we've been sent from America, to a glorious dinner and celebration with our province mates, with a weekend just the two of us and a curry dinner with lots of the gifts for the little ones with our host family thrown in, it was an amazing holiday season.

This year, we gave the gift of America's version of Christmas to many of the Cambodians we know and love!

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A photo essay, of sorts, of our Christmas 2012.

Amazing youth.
we heart kampot.
I made most of this! Three cheers for Kate!
probably my favorite from the many, many we took. genuine christmas laughter.
Wrapping gifts is a personal favorite pastime. Even if I have to use yellow duct tape.
What more could a girl ask for?

How was your Christmas?

the longest lasting gift, ever.

One more thank you.

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Dear Paige and Michael,

I mean, first off, thanks for flying nine thousand miles to traipse around with us in the 'bode this past summer.

It was pretty rockin'.

Also, though, thank you for the dozens of cards you purchased, wrote in, bought sweet little gifts for, packaged up and sent us for our two years living as PCVs.

These little cards have been, quite simply, amazing.

We opened one right as we left.

We've opened ones on our birthdays, on our wedding anniversary, on Thanksgiving and Valentine's Day and on the one year anniversary of us leaving the U.S.

It's become quite the tradition for us.  Chris reminds me we have a significant date coming up and I get the card out of it's trusty bag and set it on on our desk, awaiting it's opening a few days later.

From new underwear to moleskin notebooks to iTunes gift cards, it's always a surprise what's inside. And best of all, your words, written months in advance, are always hilarious and touching.


And we love that you each signed each and every one, just for us.

We've managed to save the ones for when we're sick or sad, though we probably could have used them a large number of times already.  But we always say- it could be worse! Better save it just in case!
 
So thank you, dear friends.  These cards are an amazing reminder of you, your friendship, and will also be amazing mementos from our time here.

Thank you.

Tuesday, December 25, 2012

a big thanks, to everyone

They say that a Peace Corps Volunteer cannot accomplish anything alone.  Usually, this refers to the support a PCV seeks to earn from the community in which they live in their new home.

And yet, it's even more clear to me, seventeen (exactly!) months into my service, that I could not do my job and accomplish my and my community's goals without my family and friends who support me and my work back at home in America.

So, here's that thank you letter I've been writing in my head every single day for the past 520 days, give or take:

Dear Parents, Parents-in-law, Siblings and Siblings-in-law, Uncles and Uncles-in-law, Cousins and Cousins-in-law, Neighbors, Friends from College, Friends from High School, Friends from my Teaching Days in Baltimore, Friends from TFA in Baltimore, and Friends of friends of any of these groups who have sent a smile my way these past months, 

Thank you.  From the deepest trench of the bottom of my heart, thank you so very much.  Your intentional physical, emotional, financial and mental support has made the difference between a frustrating, lonely, sad year-and-a-half of service and a successful, less-frustrating, supportive, joyful year-and-a-half of service.

Many of you have spent the time and money to send me (and really, us) gifts, small and large, through the insanity that is the postal service in the U.S. and Cambodia.  Even if that package or letter took three months to arrive, I thank you.

Many of you have contributed financially to both our work projects and our play.  They have, quite literally, meant that I have been able to do things like my Camp GLOW and visit Vietnam.  I thank you.

All of you have, in some way or another, helped me because of something you said via facebook or email that made me laugh. Helped me because of something you said before I left that I remember on one of my many long bus rides around this country.  Or  helped me because of something you did while eating dinner one night that reminds me why I, and we, chose to leave our home, our puppy, our family and our friends for uncertainty and unknown possibilities. 

  I thank you.

All my love, 
Kate

Monday, December 24, 2012

happy christmas!

I am wishing all of you that still read this here little blog
the warmest of wishes and the most glad tidings for the future.
i hope your christmas day, whether you celebrate it or not,
is full of joy, love, peace, and happiness!


And for the first year ever of my life,
I made one of those holiday "letters"
that catches everyone up on what
Chris and I have been up to in 2012.

It's not perfect but it was fun to make,
so I hope you enjoy!
 

Cheers!

Sunday, December 23, 2012

IT'S MY MOST FAVORITE DAY OF THE YEAR!

A maroon, velvet, empire waisted, knee length dress, hanging on the door.

Golden garland wrapped around the bannisters, down the stairs.

Cards hung in the foyer, along the arch entrance to the living room.

Mannheim Steamroller blasting from the Sony CD boombox.

Plates of carrots and dill dip, cookies and fudge, chips and cheese chilling in the fridge.

Glasses of eggnog and coca cola, simultaneously enjoyed.

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Christmas Eve Eve has got to the best day of the year. The anticipation! The joy!  The fact that it's the ultimate build up to CHRISTMAS EVE AND CHRISTMAS DAY!

The best day to get in last minute shopping.

The best day to spend every hour dripping in Christmas cheer and glee.

Before the craziness of getting everyone to midnight mass on time, before the insanity of making sure everyone is in bed at the right time, before the hectic whirlwind that is trying to avoid looking at all the gifts too soon Christmas morning.

Christmas Eve Eve is my most favoritest day of the year!

So Happy Christmas Eve Eve, my friends! May you spend it doing all of the best things available to us this time of year- spread joy and cheer, drink some eggnog or spiced rum, and revel in all the twinkly lights that surround you!

can you guess the year? (and yes, we have frosting on our noses.)