it's not shiny, but...

As I called Topher to let him know I was on my way home, he said to, ever so nonchalantly:

"Do you know what today is?"

I hesitated, then said:

"My mother's birthday?"

He said:
"Well, yes, but also our 90 day anniversary!"

"Well, I guess you better take me out to dinner or something then."

Oh, how little did I know.

I arrived home to a happy puppy and big red gift on the kitchen table.  He had written a very sweet note (on my stationary no less) and had purchased a....drum roll....

Wii!

He said "I know it's not a shiny thing, but..."

This comment reminded me of a conversation I started the other evening. I pointed out that he rarely gifted me jewelry or other shiny items- he had given me a multitude of pearls from China, but because of their low cost, I ruled them out.  I pointed out that other than my engagement ring, he had never spent more than fifty bucks on a shiny item for me.

But I don't care.

We came to the conclusion that night that both of us are practical gift givers- we much prefer a gift that we know the other person will use.  I buy him a beer making kit because he can then make beer. He buys me a cello so I can learn to play.  He's received many watches, books, cologne, random socks and ties, dvds, etc.  I've gotten computer software, books, perfume, markers. All things that get used up or read.

We're not shiny gift givers.   This is not a qualitative or evaluative statement- just a statement of mere fact.  My brother has given his fiance many "shiny" things- jewelry, designer handbags and the like. Topher has never even considered shopping for a Coach bag or emerald ring- not because he doesn't see the value in them, he just likes things that I can use.  Both my brother and my husband are loving, generous men. Both, however, are different types gift givers.

Are you a "shiny" or "use" gift giver, or some other type?