on things that save marriages

why is it that i do despise washing dishes so dearly?

it is mostly because i dislike cooking more, and here in this little homestead, we do honor such things as that stupid, nearly universal law that dictates:

he who doth perform the cooking magic shall therefore ever be released from the duties of cleansing the used dishes and pans

perhaps it is because i do despise cooking even more than the water warped fingertips and ruined nail polish that is an inevitable happenstance due to said dishwashing.

my mom and i've always maintained that i dislike cooking because it takes so much time and i had anything but time in america.  we say this often when we get together, sitting around the table in their screened-in porch in north carolina, we say to my husband, poor man:

"its not that she isn't a good cook, it's just that she's so impatient. she doesn't have the time to create a delicious meal- the thirty minutes required are just too much for her schedule right now."

except that now, all i have in cambodia is time and carrots and onions and chewy pork and you know what, mom? 

i still don't really like cooking.

i still don't like doing dishes either.

but i'll take it over the chopping and sautee-ing and stirring bit.

you're welcome, topher. 

also, thank you, because you're way better at those -ings than i'll ever be.

and sorry sometimes i do my nails while you're cooking, necessitating you to do the dishes anyway.

also, sorry that i sold you on a lie that someday down the line, i'd enjoy cooking. and maybe be good at it.

but you like it this way better, yes? yes?!

so now it's to you to share those things that create such a harmonious balance in your happy abode below- yes, please?