Monday, February 28, 2011

finally back on the same page

Husband and I met in college, as many of you know.  Happy, happy college times, they were, as we could sleep in until eleven, meet for lunch at one, part ways for class, and re-convene for those meaningful and heartfelt late-into-the-night talks that we all know so well from college.  We were, in essence, on the same exact page most every single day.

And then.

I remember it was November and we were in the "Tavern," the food hub on campus where you could use your meal plan to buy a cheesesteak or a Chick-fil-a salad (though the Chick-fil-a  option had been taken back two years prior.)

We were standing in line when a friend approached me and Topher and asked us if we knew what we were planning for our embarkment into the real world in May.  I had recently applied and been accepted to Teach For America and told her so.  Boyfriend hesitated.

It was in this moment when I realized that Topher and I were about to enter a period in our life, and relationship, where we would be very much on different pages.  While I was about to do the hardest- and the most significant- thing I could imagine, he wasn't sure what his next steps would be. He had a hope, an idea, a desire for what he wanted, and it didn't include grad school or a normal job just yet.

What he had planned and wanted was a common dream we shared, but one I postponed when I agreed to join this other great organization.  When we first met, it was this path, this plan, this idea that cemented us even further together- it was another thing we had in common, illuminating the ever clearer truth that our life goals aligned nearly perfectly.

With me moving to another city, however, Topher (and I) deferred this dream, to avoid spending two years on separate continents, both battling what might be the most difficult challenges we've ever faced.

Now, I'm happy, overjoyed and incredibly excited to say that this hope and dream husband and I both shared is coming true.

To put it quickly, as my dearest friend Paige said, we're finally back on the same page.  After two years living in separate cities and counting the hours to the joyful thirty we got together each week, and another two years spent driving off in opposite directions each morning working drastically different hours and making the most of our weekends, we now get at least twenty seven months sharing the same book and page.

We're moving to Cambodia.  We've applied, been invited to, and decided to join the Peace Corps.

We leave in July.


Until then, you can expect regular posting as you've (hopefully) come to know and love, and if you'd like more consistent updates on life as we prepare to become Peace Corps Volunteers, please check out my Peace Corps blog HERE.  I can't promise some thoughts or experiences won't overlap, but I'll mainly keep my ramblings over there.

I know some of you might not be looking to read the likely inconsistent (it's very unlikely I'll have access to regular internet in Cambodia) goings-on of a married woman learning how to speak Khmer, temper her feminist ways in a very conservative culture, and maintain a sense of humor as she learns to bucket shower and toilet squat.  However, if you are, I hope you'll stick around, even after July.

I'm pretty much walking on cloud nine. Any questions or thoughts out there?

40 comments:

  1. Oh my goodness, Kate, how incredibly exciting! Congratulations! What an amazing opportunity!

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  2. I am GIDDY at this news! How utterly amazing! Congratulations a thousand times over!

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  3. That is FANTASTIC! I'm so excited for you guys! I can't wait to read about it, even if it is sporadic. Congratulations, both of you!!

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  4. Congrats! I'm looking forward to hearing all about your adventures in Cambodia.

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  5. hi! hi! hi!

    first time comment, but i've been following since miss pencils became a mrs.

    from a stranger in milwaukee, sending you nothing but good juju, fabulous karma and many, many congratulations!

    what an epic adventure!

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  6. SOOOO EXCITING!!!! I love, love, love the Peace Corps and seriously considered doing that after college. I absolutely can't wait to read your sporadic posts about all of your adventures! Congratulations :)

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  7. Congratulations!!! Sooo excited for you. Peace Corp is something I wish I did when I was younger. I work with Cambodian youth and a center on the east coast for Cambodian immigrants. I'll definitely be following your adventures. EKK.

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  8. Congratulations for both of you! I was hoping this was the exciting news you hinted about on Twitter!

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  9. This is AMAZING!! Congratulations to both of you! I definitely look forward to hearing more about your upcoming Cambodian adventures.. big smiles!!

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  10. You both are so brave! Congrats on the opportunity! One of my friends from high school is in the Peace Corp in a country I can neither pronounce nor spell, and she loves it. I have a hard enough time thinking about moving across the country, let alone the world! I will miss your posts when you leave, but your experience is going to change so many lives!

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  11. AMAZING! Congrats on such a great opportunity. I have no doubt you will love the entire experience! I can't wait for the upcoming posts... though we will miss you in the interwebs... CONGRATS AGAIN!

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  12. Wow! Congrats, I know that will be one experience you both will never forget.

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  13. That's so exciting!! My hubby is Cambodian, and we have plans on going there in the future. Can't wait to read about your adventures!!

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  14. What an amazing and exciting opportunity! Can't wait to hear all about your preperations and your adventures there!

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  15. I'm so very excited for you and Topher! I wish you two nothing but the best in your new endeavor. :)

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  16. Congrats! How exciting! And I'm so happy you guys can share this together!

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  17. That is so wonderful!! My parents served in the peace corps together as a married couple and I know they loved it! They were in Guatemala. Congrats to you all!!

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  18. Congratulations! B's best friend and his wife just got back from two years in South Africa, and my best friend is in the middle of her application! I can't wait to hear about your adventures whenever you're able to post about them!

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  19. oh my gosh!! huge congratulations! that's going to be amazing... my ex bf was a returned peace corps volunteer and it was amazing to hear his stories. (and we visited his host country at one point, which was awesome). cambodia is one of my dream countries to travel to -- yall are going to be so well situated!! can't wait to read about your adventures. and it's awesome you're supporting topher by deciding to do this together!!

    too many exclamation points!! ahhh

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  20. Congratulations! This is very, very exciting. The Peace Corps was one of those things I wished I had done. I wanted to do it right after college, but for a variety of reasons (Including the fact that my citizenship process was not finished after over 2 years (2 years!)), I never got to go. It will be a life changing experience and it's great that you and your husband will be there to support each other. :) Good luck with everything.

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  21. Wow, how exciting! Congratulations! What an amazing thing to do as a couple. I cannot wait to read all about it.

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  22. congratulations! Must be exciting for a new step, but also to be doing it together! Looking forward to hearing about your preparations and your journey in July!

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  23. thanks everyone for the happy support! i was a bit worried telling everyone, for a myriad of reasons, including losing some readers.

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  24. Wowza. What an awesome adventure. So excited for you guys.

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  25. First off, how incredible!! Huge congratulations! Peace Corp will change your lives. Secondly, I had no idea that you guys were "Eagles"! Once I saw Tavern I was able to put it all together. I've only been following you for a little over a month (found you from the bee of course) but it's so cool to know that one of my favorite bloggers is also an alum!!

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  26. Amazing!! That is going to be such a great experience... Congrats!

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  27. This is seriously so exciting and such an amazing opportunity! I'm so happy for you -- congratulations! I can't wait to hear all about your adventures. :)

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  28. Congrats! What a huge and exciting chapter for you guys.

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  29. AGAIN, I am SO happy for you guys! Such an honor & opportunity!
    PS Get your guest room ready!

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  30. Congratulations!!! Y'all deserve it :) I have a friend who's just finishing up her stint in Namibia...I'm sure she'd be happy to answer any questions if you wanted to pick her brain. So excited for you guys!

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  31. Wow - how amazing!!!! I can't wait to hear all about your experiences...congratulations!!!!!

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  32. OMG! That is so exciting! You guys are so ballsy and awesome! I'm not gonna lie, I'm totally jealous!

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  33. What an amazing adventure! I heard on NPR this morning that the Peace Corps was started 50 years ago today. Perfect timing!

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  34. congrats!! so exciting for you guys <3

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  35. How amazing is this?!? WOW! And reading this on the 50th anniversary of the Peace Corps is awesome as well!
    I truly admire that service is such a big part of your lives!

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  36. Congratulations!!!! How amazing!!

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  37. I just caught this! How exciting - congrats!!!

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  38. How cool! A bit late in catching up with my posts (sorry!), but I'm moving to Manila with hubby in March. Not nearly as adventurous, seeing we're with the Foreign Services, not Peace Corps (but tons of his coworkers are former Peace Corps), but either way, we'll be (somewhat) neighbors. Cool!

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